Anyone who knows me knows that my natural speed is slower than most. I need time—to process, to decide, to take that first step. And for most of my life, I’ve felt like an oddball because of this.
For as long as I can remember, I’ve been told to hurry up. “Stop being so pokey!” “Make your mind up already!” I spent years feeling like I would be better—more worthy—if only I could do more, faster. I constantly felt behind. Not quite good enough. Like I was coming in last in every imaginary race life threw my way.
There’s an unspoken pressure in our culture to produce and perform. And yes, in some situations, that pressure can be useful. I’m a musician. Without deadlines or performance dates, my motivation to learn and master new pieces would have been minimal. The same is probably true for you in whatever field you’re in. Structure can help us grow.
But the pressure to constantly produce more—and to do it perfectly—has intensified over the years. Fellow ’80s kids, have you noticed this? With the rise of technology and so-called time-saving devices, expectations have only grown. We’re expected to do more, in less time, and do it flawlessly.
Don’t get me wrong—sometimes, urgency is necessary. But I’ve learned something powerful: there’s value in slowing down. In enjoying the process. In finding joy even while the loose ends remain untied. In sitting still and reflecting on the progress we’ve made.
I remember, during the middle of 2020—after a few months of sheltering in place—I turned to my family and said, “I don’t rush well!” It wasn’t a grand revelation, and their laughter confirmed it. That simple truth became an inside joke whenever I lagged behind. It was Captain Obvious–level honesty. But it stuck with me. My engine runs slower than most—and that’s okay.
Truthfully, I don’t thrive under pressure. When I’m forced to rush, I become frustrated, exhausted, and discouraged. Sometimes even depressed. There’s plenty of research that explains why some of us respond this way—but that’s a conversation for another day.
What I want to leave you with is this: Slowing down is good for the mind, body and soul. Slowing down isn’t failure – it’s faith.
We are not machines. Machines exist to produce—reliably, predictably, and endlessly. But we are more than that. We are emotional, spiritual, mental, and relational beings—made in the image of God (Genesis 1:26). Reducing ourselves to machines strips away the beauty and uniqueness of our humanity.
In my journey through eating disorder recovery, I had to learn to rest. After years of demanding perfection from myself, I had to unlearn the rigid expectations I carried—whether self-imposed or projected by others. I had to learn that it’s okay to rest. That nourishing my body wasn’t a weakness, but an act of healing.
Nourishment goes beyond food and drink. It includes community. It includes spiritual connection—with God and with others. Eating disorders isolate. As much as I was physically undernourished, I was just as socially and spiritually depleted.
Healing came slowly, in small steps. Through learning to rest. To rest in God’s promises. To trust that He will sustain me. Believing He will give me the strength to do what He calls me to do. And I can testify: when I walk with Jesus and surrender my life to Him, I experience the lightness He promised (Matthew 11:28-30).
When I trust God with the outcome, I’m free from trying to control it all. I’m not responsible for everyone else’s success or failure. That freedom from the burden of control is part of His gift to us.
So today, whatever your list of tasks, whatever burdens you’re carrying—can I encourage you to take a few moments to pause? To literally take a moment to “smell the roses,” to recognize the beauty of your everyday life? Will you embrace the curiosity of seeing what God could do with a well-rested you?
The Psalmist writes in Psalm 46:10:
“Be still (also translated, stop striving or stop fighting) and know (experientially know) that I AM God.”
Take a deep breath. Be still. You are not behind. You are not broken.
You are beloved.
You weren’t created to work for your worth.
If you feel like you’re constantly behind…
If you carry the quiet shame of not being “enough”…
If your relationship with food, your body, or yourself feels strained and exhausting…
Friend, it’s time to slow down—and come home to grace. As a professional Christian life coach, I help women discover the roots of their struggles, set realistic goals and pursue attainable action steps toward a life marked by joy, rest and authenticity.
This coaching journey is for the woman who:
- Feels stuck in cycles of shame, perfectionism, or comparison
- Struggles with food, body image, or believing she’s “good enough”
- Loves Jesus, but secretly feels like she’s not doing faith “right”
- Longs to rest, but feels guilty when she tries
- Wants to heal—not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually
What You’ll Experience:
- Safe, shame-free space to explore your relationship with food, your body, and your self-worth
- Faith-based tools for renewing your mind with truth (Romans 12:2)
- Gentle, personalized guidance toward nourishment, rest, and spiritual connection
- Practical strategies for breaking free from perfectionism and performance-based identity
What’s Included:
- 6 or 12 weekly 1:1 coaching sessions (video call or phone)
- Ongoing support via email
- Journal prompts, Scripture-based reflections, and optional exercises between sessions
- Optional prayer support and spiritual mentorship, tailored to your comfort
You don’t have to carry this alone.
You can break free from the pressure to earn your worth.
You can make peace with your body—and your story.
You can learn to rest in the truth: you are already enough in Christ.
Ready to begin?
Let’s schedule a complimentary 30-minute Discovery Call to see if this is the right fit for you.
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Curious but still have a few questions? Please send an email to Rebecca at info@space4grace.ca